Is she flirting or just friendly? (2023)

Can being friendly be mistaken for flirting?

While the “friendly” look is more of a glance, nod, or relaxed one, the “flirty” one is rather prolonged, sometimes with lowered eyelids and emphasis on the way they say certain words, or sudden change in body language while they're talking, becoming more conscious – this could be them touching their hair, ...

Many brief glances may sometimes be subtle flirtation. In close relationships, people tend to direct many brief glances at the intended target of their flirtation. This might mean that constantly catching the eye of someone across the room might be subtle flirtation rather than pure coincidence.

Harmless Flirting

This can mean buying a drink in a social setting, freely giving compliments, side arm hugs or other non-sexual touches, a platonic friendship. The term “harmless” is only applicable if you are willing to disclose this behavior (without shame or concern) to your partner.

They are interested in what you have to say and ask you lots of questions. They laugh at your jokes, even the lame ones. They initiate physical contact. They try to find space where you can talk more privately (this does not always mean sex, but it often means they wish for more quality time with you).

Healthy flirting is fun, frivolous, entertaining and makes everyone laugh and feel good. It makes people feel focussed on, important, attractive and in general it has a strong positive and playful vibe to it.

Jeffery Hall, an assistant professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas in Lawrence, and colleagues found five main styles of flirting: physical, traditional, polite, sincere, and playful.

Try this instead: Make great eye contact while talking to him. It's sexy, smart, and shows you're really listening. Laughing can be a great way to flirt—when things are genuinely funny. But if you're speaking to a man and you laugh at everything he says, you'll confuse him and come off looking a little ditzy—or nuts.

If he listens to everything you say, laughs at your jokes, is always smiling or giggling at you, this is a sign of serious flirting. These actions show that he is happy and maybe even a little nervous.

Is he interested or just friendly?

A friendly guy will definitely make eye contact during conversation—it's only the polite thing to do, after all—but if he looks at you randomly from afar, he's interested. If you ever catch him trying to sneak a peek at a part of your body other than your eyes while you do talk, he's definitely interested.

Someone who is flirtatious behaves toward someone else as if they are sexually attracted to them, usually not in a very serious way. He was dashing, self-confident and flirtatious.